What Will You be Remembered For?

One December day, we heard the passing of Tata Madiba. We expected it but its reality hailed a serious emotional episode for the nation. We got glued to our screens to pay our last respects, reflect and celebrate his legacy. Greatest of people traveled from furthest of places, one of the world’s Legends and the father of our rainbow nation was gone… Nelson Mandela.

The moment for his coffin to descend arrived, we were shaken by the reality of the end that’s coming to everyone’s journeys unfold in front of our eyes. It isolated me into a revision of his story with full caution. He was a book in our history, left for generations to know and celebrate the legacy of a legend who demonstrated courage and sacrificed a lot for his cause! A question sunk into my soul.

What will you be remembered for?


Will coming generations hear the message of your race? Will you pave paths that will be journeyed on well after you’re gone?

I saw a woman idling in the alley of fear and feelings of inadequacy, holding gifts tamed by disappointment, passions quenched by discouragement and wealth of wisdom chained by people’s expectations and opinions. Her beauty neglected because of conversion into a walking corpse. How was I going to know the message I would leave when I was cornered by the question, “Who are you?”

From any level, it was time to start building and focusing and do a better job in positioning myself on my own priority list. I had to see myself beyond being just his wife, their mother, everyone’s 24/7 yellow pages and start dreaming again. I had to rediscover and reintroduce myself and my gifts, challenge myself and impact the world around me, learn and unlearn, conquer the fear of making mistakes and pursue my passions.

I was not going to be a generational thief and surrender the wealth of my capacity and talents to the grave. I vowed to do my best every day in pursuit of what sets my soul on fire! It wasn’t going to be a walk in the park, but just like the great Martin Luther King Jr says:

“If you can’t fly, then run.
If you can’t run, then walk.
If you can’t walk, then crawl,
but by all means, keep moving.”

I was prepared to fall and rise, by all means, run my race.
Challenge perspectives, by all means, leave my Legacy.

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Portia Radebe
Portia Radebe

Real Life Editor

Portia Radebe is an inspirational Image Consultant and Life Coach, an entrepreneur qualified as an Event Planner and she has expertise in protocol etiquette. She is a creative, hardworking and passionate woman, with a conviction of excellence in her area of expertise. Portia is the former face of Nestle Pure Life, Torga Optical, Absa South Africa Johnson&Johnson, as well as a Mrs SA 2017 Top 10 Finalist. She pioneers various initiatives of her own including charity work, assisting youth with building self-esteem and girls self-pride. She’s a wife, Pastor and a mother of four girls.

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