We all know that achieving orgasms can be a challenge. It seems harder than it really is. The sad part is that rather than talking about it we avoid the subject. Realistically speaking, achieving a mind-blowing orgasm is really not that complicated. I found three really interesting points to consider next time you are close to entering the “Moan Zone”.
If you are anything like me, you like to over-analyze situations. Why things happen, why things don’t, how it can be fixed etc. To me, orgasms were one of the things that really stood out when it came to researching ways to have a truly happy sex life.
I found that although most of us have experienced failed attempts or have had to fake it a little to keep everyone happy, there is NO shame in not achieving the perfect orgasm. In fact, 75% of woman do not achieve orgasms without the help of a little lip or little lick. Feel better now?
1. The Past
Understand that your past sexual experience, especially if you have endured sexual assault or exploitation, might have an impact on how often, if ever, you achieve the perfect orgasm. You need to breathe, take a step back and deal with the emotions that brought you to where you are now. You have to be comfortable with opening up and truly letting your partner explore you and what makes you tick. Without allowing yourself to make peace with the past, it may always be a burden in your life.
2. Accept Yourself
Being comfortable with yourself, your body and your ability to pleasure your partner is an important aspect we often overlook. If you are someone that likes to cover up or flip off the light switch, you may find it hard to “let go” when the moment comes. This might be because you get a little shy when you approach the “Oh” moment, or that you are afraid that how you react could be turn off to your partner.
If you are in a committed relationship with a partner that has accepted you and everything about you, there are very few things that will put them off of you. Once you are comfortable with yourself, your partner will feel it too. This way, it allows both of you to embrace the moment and allow the heat to take over.
Remember that we, as women, are basically walking hormones. Consider where you are in your monthly cycle when you are struggling to achieve an orgasm. Science has proven that women in the midst of their ovulation cycle have higher libido levels and tend to orgasm easier and more often.
If you find yourself still struggling to achieve a sweat-breaking orgasm, speak to your partner about it. There might be a few underlying issues that you have not discussed before that might be leading you to the land of the dry. Communication is the key to unlock the door to the “moan zone”.