Vaginal “Looseness” – Fact Or Fiction?

Many people have wondered about this and have shamelessly given their opinions on this topic. One of the biggest questions that are asked by woman worldwide is whether vaginal looseness due to sex is a real thing. Well, it has indeed proven to be a MYTH!

Although in our minds, we believe that after engaging in many sexual acts, our vaginal muscles stretch making us feel loose, this is very far from the truth. We have been conditioned to believe this due to the unsolicited opinions of others. To try and explain this in a way for it to make sense, here is what I have come up with:


Yes, your vaginal muscles do loosen and tighten in many situations. When, for instance, you just had sex, or are about to, it is natural for the muscles to relax and give off the feeling of looseness. When a woman is aroused, the vagina relaxes, thus making it easier and more comfortable to have sex. I mean, think of it this way; an object was inserted into a hole and this causes the hole to expand for said object to enter. It’s simple. It’s called “expansion” or “stretching”. This is a natural occurrence meant to happen and if it didn’t, well, sex and giving birth would not be possible.

In younger women, the feeling of being tighter is explained due to their hormones and bodies being underdeveloped and not ready to bear children or to engage in sexual activity. As time progresses, nature takes its course and the vaginal muscles are able to loosen up. This is just the way it works.


No, your vagina does not look like a wizard’s sleeve after having too much sex. The theory behind this has been proven to be far from the truth, but let me explain it this way. Take the corners of your mouth and pull them towards your ears, hang on to them for a minute. Then, release and see what happens. Look like The Joker, do you? NO! Your skin retracts to its original size just like it is supposed to. I know, silly example, but it makes sense, right?

In many cases, certain things like ageing and childbirth do have an influence on the vaginal muscles. Sex, on the other hand, will not cause you to feel “loose”.


Some exercises to consider should you experience vaginal looseness due to child birth, ageing or the way your mind has been conditioned can be found over here to ease your mind.

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Christelle du Plessis
Christelle du Plessis

Sex Editor

Christelle du Plessis was born and raised in the North West province. Her passion is working with young women and creating a space for them where they feel safe to express their emotions and where they will become equipped to change the circumstances they are in. Christelle is a social butterfly and she would like to think of herself as a very strong-minded and determined young woman. Instead of changing the world, she wants to empower people to do it themselves.

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