I was so touched by a scene in Tyler Perry’s Why Did I Get Married film when during a bonding moment among the guys this statement was made:
“In marriage, we don’t get 100% of what we want, we get at least 80%, but the 20% we’re not getting often feels good, not because it’s enough but because we’re not getting it.”
As a married woman it was comforting that it’s normal not to have everything 100% ticking, yet highly thought provoking for me as a “woman”. Why is it so easy for women to trade so carelessly? Giving themselves away like a garment with an unknown value?
To the other woman; why don’t you think you deserve your full portion?
While you’re fascinated with sitting in a passenger seat of another woman’s car, did you know that you’re enough for a driver’s seat?
Even though you’re fascinated with second-hand promises of forbidden love just so that you give up priceless treasures and place your peace at risk, you should know that the deal only looks good because you don’t know your worth and to him, you remain a little toy in his game.
While you’re selling your soul, putting up a first-class defeated performance that’ll always gage only up to 20%, did you know that you deserve a soulmate? Your 80% to honor and love you as you deserve?
Because you’re enjoying the free rent and easy gifts, fascinated with traveling places and sleeping in hotels, sipping wine and popping champagne bottles in celebration, you ought to know that the true celebration here will always be his because he’s found his easiest expense and that’s the only price he needs to pay?
While you’re singing Busiswa’s Midnight Starring, trapped in your little bubble thinking that you’ve won and doing better than “the main”, did you know that to a man like him you remain a seasonal snack awaiting something better to remind you that you never measured up to him, to begin with?
Did you know that the only reason you know him, is because there’s another woman who knows what she deserves, her worth and purpose in his life and she won’t settle for anything but the best?
To the other woman; you think you’ve won! But before you give yourself a pat on the back, please know that he’s with you only because he’s lost a real woman! Checkmate. Losers deserve each other.