Real Life Story: The Art of Becoming

Molebogeng Nkadimeng is a 34-year-old businesswoman, motivational speaker and owner of Lebo Speaks Media. This is a platform she uses to share her life battles and how she overcame them in hopes of teaching others on the art of becoming.

Briefly about her Beginnings

Lebo was born in 1985 in the small town of Manganeng, Sekhukhune, from where her parents originate. Her whole family relocated to Springs, Gauteng, shortly after she was born due to her fathers’ involvement in politics. At the age of 4, she and her family moved again, this time to London where she stayed until the year 1997. She started high school the following year back in Springs, South Africa.

Art of Becoming lesson #1: There Will Be Challenges

At the age of 16, Lebo was diagnosed with late asthma which affected her outlook on life. “As much as many people suffered from late asthma, for me and my family it was a big issue because nobody in my family ever got sick.” Lebo elaborates, “I had to do research all the time to comfort myself, because, in my mind, this was something that could kill me,” she explains. 

In grade 11, Lebo was inspired to study psychology at the University of Pretoria so she applied. Little did she know that she would soon be pushed to see a doctor after suffering severe breast pains, where a non-cancerous lump in her right breast was discovered and removed surgically. This caused her to miss her matric exams due to which affected her chances of studying psychology at the University of Pretoria. She became inactive and her health conditions led to weight gain which lowered her self-esteem.

“The weight gain would cause me to shy away from the bubbly person people knew me as and I was losing my voice.”

Art of Becoming lesson #2: Joy and Pain May Collide

After a long haul of obstacles, Lebo finally got into the University of Pretoria where she studied until she attained her Honours degree in psychology. Her first job followed in 2007.

However, her sicknesses progressed from  massive headaches to severe spinal pains that compromised her ability to live like a normal person. After she was warned that falling pregnant could jeopardise her health, she fell pregnant despite her pains and sickness, and describes her pregnancy as a ‘painful time’.

“My pregnancy was so complicated that I had to stop working because of the major pains I felt,” Nkadimeng explains.

Seven months after the complicated arrival of her daughter, Lebo lost her father in a car accident. Despite her father being her best friend, she did not grieve his death the right way, a fact she discovered when she woke up in a psychiatric ward after suffering an anxiety attack.

Art of Becoming lesson #3: What Doesn’t Kill You Makes You Stronger

Lebo continued falling more ill as the years went by, going in and out of hospitals, to a point where her marriage to the father of her daughter, suffered; “I was never present. I could never plan ahead and it affected my marriage,” she tells BLOSS Africa.

Every year she would get more sick until one day in 2014, she woke up from a nap and could not move her body. She was later diagnosed with the muscle disease, Myopathy, which is a disease doctors cannot treat. Lebo refused to use a wheelchair or anything else that would be accepting that this was her life.

“That was not my narrative, I knew I was destined for more than being dependent on others my entire life.”

She still fought to function normally even with her slight disability.

Art of Becoming lesson #4: A Woman with a Will Survives
After studying further, she used her then-upcoming graduation as motivation to keep believing that she will walk on the graduation stage with her own capability which she did.

Despite the traumatic life experiences concerning her health, career and family, she believes she has found her purpose and biggest blessings through all of them.

With all she went through, she met her second husband and is a founder of a business where she encourages others that if she could find her rainbow in the storm o 14 surgeries, so can they.

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Ntokozo Maseko
Ntokozo Maseko

BLOSS Africa Editor

Ntokozo Maseko takes the reigns as Editor of BLOSS AFRICA with capable hands whose experience in the media industry stretches back 12 years. Black women took centre focus in her very first magazine journalism gig at Move! Magazine where she worked first as a features writer, then as an entertainment journalist. The entertainment beat led her to TV work as a content producer for a popular celebrity show on SABC 1and then the historic BONA Magazine where she started as a writer then features editor. She went on to significantly refresh the brand in the editor’s hot seat changing its look and regularly giving then on-the-rise celebrities like Nomzamo Mbatha their first cover features when other magazines wouldn’t. She’s been featured in the Mail & Guardian’s 200 Young South Africans list and has since expanded her skills into Public Relations and Content Management having worked for a number of black-owned agencies as well as global cosmetics brand M.A.C. She writes, edits, scripts and directs video like a pro and with black women still highly praised at the altar in her work. Bloss Africa is thrilled to have her seasoned eye, quiet strength and intelligence occupy our space.

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