So as I sit listening to my fiance and his band getting ready for their upcoming shows, I thought about the most common sex mistakes we as women make. I mean, let’s face it, we have all caught ourselves thinking about the washing on the line at the worst time. To be honest, these mistakes are more common than we think. We have all been victims of these mistakes before.
I compiled a list of them and I’m sure a lot of you can agree with this:
1. Never trying something new
After being together for a while, it’s natural to want to spice things up from time to time. When your partner wants to try something new, it does not mean that he or she is not happy with your current sex life. Just like with most situations in life, trying something new and exciting keeps the adrenaline rushing and the mind positive. There is a saying I strongly believe in that says: “Life starts outside of your comfort zone”. Don’t be scared to release some of those inner sex monsters!
2. Failing to initiate sex
As women, we have been conditioned from a very young age to believe that men take the lead. Because a lot of us take this to heart, we allow this uneducated statement to take over our sex lives. Then, before we know it, our partners get tired of always being the one to initiate sex. You will be surprised by how appreciative your partner will be if you initiate sex from time to time. That is, doing it without making it painlessly obvious that you are nervous. Own it, Queen! common sex mistakes
3. Worrying too much about how they look
Yes, we want to look good at all times but, worrying too much about what you look like will steer you away from having fun and achieving a great orgasm. Just like your partner is a turn on to you no matter when last anything was groomed or trimmed, the same goes for you.
Stop thinking about the belly fat or smudge of makeup, concentrate on the pleasure of the act. Your partner wants you at your most vulnerable, they want to see and feel that they are pleasuring you in all the right places. It’s difficult to achieve this when you keep worrying about the patch of hair you missed on your calf.
4. Bringing everyday worries to bed
This is the one time you ARE allowed to let go of the laundry list of things that need to be done. The one time where your only focus should be on enjoying the moment. When you take off your clothes, imagine taking off the layer of stress along with it. No one wants to have sex with a zombie. Your body will not relax or allow for the perfect orgasm when your mind is focused on something you can worry about later.