It’s Sexy To Communicate About Sex

We all know that entering into a new relationship holds many beautiful challenges. One of them being to openly communicate about sex. A lot of people steer clear of talking about this topic because it creates somewhat of a shy moment. They avoid this and instead, they carry on with what they think feels good/right. Due to different cultures and beliefs, it is important to establish your partner’s sexual needs and desires.

Good communication is paramount to a good relationship, yet matters that relate to sex often seem difficult to communicate with one’s partner even in long-term relationships.

Here are some tips to consider when entering a new relationship.

Sexual Secrets

While not all of us feel the need to share past sexual secrets with our partners, it can play a vital role in whether you have a good and healthy sex life. Your partner is as new to your sexual desires as you are to theirs. For instance, there may be certain things that you find attractive that your partner finds nearly revolting. Many people still engage in certain acts in order to please their partners while in reality this is actually making them uncomfortable and can cause prolonged problems in the relationship.

Sexual Risks & Health

As women, we face daily sexual health challenges that not only influence our lives but those of our partners as well. In this day and age with all that has progressed, you should be 100% open to discussing the health or physical risks with your partner and seek guidance or help in order to maintain a painless and healthy sex life. Your risks may become your partner’s risks.

Sexual History and Plans

Although it may seem insignificant to share your past sexual experiences with your partner, the risk of keeping quiet may carry some unwanted circumstances. Talking about the number of sexual partners, their genders or any possible past STD’s is your responsibility. Your partner is relying on your honesty. Also, discussing your future plans when it comes to family planning is a MUST if you plan on spending your lives together.

Sexual Preferences

Be it sex positions, certain times you prefer to have sex, fetishes or fantasies, this can impact you and your partner in a very negative way if not discussed. You cannot expect your partner to satisfy you while they are not sure what your needs are or what you are comfortable with. There is no shame in talking about what makes you tick. It is a much-needed conversation specially when you plan on being each other’s only sexual partners.

We tend to overlook important aspects when entering a new relationship. Or, we tend to assume that our new partners will know what to do when. The best advice anyone has given me was to communicate. A fulfilled sex life can do wonders, make it happen!

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Christelle du Plessis
Christelle du Plessis

Sex Editor

Christelle du Plessis was born and raised in the North West province. Her passion is working with young women and creating a space for them where they feel safe to express their emotions and where they will become equipped to change the circumstances they are in. Christelle is a social butterfly and she would like to think of herself as a very strong-minded and determined young woman. Instead of changing the world, she wants to empower people to do it themselves.

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