Is Your Sex Drive In Reverse?

Over the past couple of weeks, I have gotten quite a strong response from our readers asking me to write about low sex drive and how to handle it. I have taken some time on this topic and found quite a few interesting points.


Believe it or not, there is a list of things affecting a man’s libido and sexual functionality. A few main causes to consider next time you are facing a roadblock is:

  1. Testosterone: When a man’s testosterone levels decrease, so does his sex drive. Low testosterone levels could be due to alcohol abuse, injury, chemotherapy, excess estrogen and even pubertal delay (puberty came knocking on the door a little late)
  2. Medication: Certain medications play a role in low sex drive. These medications include, but are not limited to, Anabolic Steroids, Morphine, Antidepressants, Chemotherapy.
  3. Depression: People with depression experience reduced or complete lack of interest in all sorts of activities. Depression may be caused by traumatizing experiences in one’s past, the stress of everyday life etc.


As women we tend to have increased and decreased sexual desires hugely due to the following factors affecting nearly 50% of women:

  1. Stress: As the woman of the house, we tend to carry a lot of the everyday stress on our shoulders. Financial stress, motherhood stress, emotional stress, and work stress. This often has an effect on one’s menstrual cycle too and can cause a delay in ovulation when a woman is at the peak of her libido level.
  2. Hormonal Imbalance & Reproductive diseases: Estrogen, the main hormone to affect women’s health, causes many health issues once out of balance. Diseases such as  Endometriosis and PTSD and their symptoms also has an impact on whether the bedroom sometimes turns in to a dessert.
  3. Psychological issues: Mental illness affects more than 1 in 5 women worldwide. Whether it is a lack of self-esteem, body image problems, childhood trauma or abusive relationships, all and most of these factors are proven to have an effect.

Now that we know what may be causing a little dryness for Your Highness, let’s identify some helpful resources.

  1. Communication. As a couple, you are supposed to be 100% comfortable talking about your challenges.
  2. Healthier lifestyle choices. As a couple, deciding to lead a healthier lifestyle will have a very positive outcome. From more nutritional diets to breaking unhealthy habits, your lifestyle choices have a huge impact on more than just your sex life.
  3. Counselling. A lot of people are ashamed to go through counselling sessions when in fact it is nothing to be ashamed of. This is sometimes more necessary than you may think.

I face many of these challenges and I know how this can affect one’s life. My advice and what has worked for me in my relationships is to start talking about it. Baby steps. You have to start somewhere.

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Christelle du Plessis
Christelle du Plessis

Sex Editor

Christelle du Plessis was born and raised in the North West province. Her passion is working with young women and creating a space for them where they feel safe to express their emotions and where they will become equipped to change the circumstances they are in. Christelle is a social butterfly and she would like to think of herself as a very strong-minded and determined young woman. Instead of changing the world, she wants to empower people to do it themselves.

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