Fake It ‘til You Make It: Should We?

At a women empowerment gathering, I came in contact with a saying that’s been tossed around a lot:

‘Fake it ‘til you make it’

It was a great event and the speaker was so passionate about that saying that it shook the room. It also ended up in my reflections and adjustments. I thought, oh my, it turns out I can twist stuff up and create the façade of a stronger stature. For a second there, I was in the driver’s seat!

The reason it shook the room was that we all have things we’re not on top of! We didn’t choose them but when life happened they choose us. We mostly feel like they weigh us down, so an illusion to fake at certain times while working to fix them, was a permission to fabricate an acceptable profile!

So, I got out there, adjusted and twisted a couple of things I felt my social life needed, and life was definitely easier again. Only if with that fake representation didn’t come a fake inflamed image with no growth.

I started noticing that there was now a “Me” out there and in here. A shift between the two got so real it was scary. The me out there stopped enjoying and didn’t flow so good without a rehearsal; there was a lot to remember in order to keep up and perform. I had acquainted myself in fake connections as I was fake myself, it became such work I missed being me. Apparently “Fake it ‘til you make it” had buried me under a pile of misrepresentation and lies. That’s when I noticed that this powerful statement needed surveillance.

I called it out with myself! Time to Face it ‘til you make it!

Owning our story is the one chance we have at growth and purposeful life. Even though we don’t choose what enters our lives, it’s in our response where we’re afforded a platform to showcase our uniqueness, strengths and who we really are.

Being fake doesn’t only stop us from relating and being relatable, it also robs us of the control on our existence and leaving messages we’re created to leave in this life.

Do yourself the favor I once did myself, revisit places you had to present yourself (Try Social media platforms), and ask yourself these 3 questions:


Who’s that?

What’s their message?

Who’re they telling?

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Portia Radebe
Portia Radebe

Real Life Editor

Portia Radebe is an inspirational Image Consultant and Life Coach, an entrepreneur qualified as an Event Planner and she has expertise in protocol etiquette. She is a creative, hardworking and passionate woman, with a conviction of excellence in her area of expertise. Portia is the former face of Nestle Pure Life, Torga Optical, Absa South Africa Johnson&Johnson, as well as a Mrs SA 2017 Top 10 Finalist. She pioneers various initiatives of her own including charity work, assisting youth with building self-esteem and girls self-pride. She’s a wife, Pastor and a mother of four girls.

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