With Women’s Month coming up it is appropriate to honor the empowering women who make a difference in their community.
It’s about time their input is recognised and acknowledged. Our Business Relationship Manager met up with a few businesswomen and asked them some personal and business related questions that formed them to what they have become.
Meet Kiki Smit, Relationship Life Coach, Family Law Mediator and Brainspotting Therapist. This means – She tackles the whole shebang when it comes to dating.
Areas such as Pre-Marital Coaching, Marriage Misunderstandings, and Trauma.
WHAT MAKES YOU SMILE THE MOST?
Happy people!! I absolutely get a kick out of other people’s smiles!
WHAT MUSIC MAKES YOU CRY?
Funeral music, songs with sad stories or super inspirational songs (they make me cry with a smile on my face).
WHAT LITTLE THING MAKES YOU THE MOST GRATEFUL TO BE ALIVE?
I’ve always counted all the small blessings and celebrations as they appear. Today, I look at the big picture and I perceive every little thing as the start of a huge blessing. Therefore, every little thing, from waking up in the morning to a little thing like a hug, makes me grateful to be alive.
ON HARD DAYS, WHAT MOTIVATES YOU TO GET UP AND START YOUR DAY?
I count to 5. I launch myself into the next thing on my schedule. 5,4,3,2,1 and go!
HOW DO YOU FIND STRENGTH WHEN YOU ARE GOING THROUGH HARDSHIPS?
I conquered my biggest hardships through prayer. I have survived many hardships where I was completely aware of the “bo-natuurlike” (supernatural) peace that came over me. I don’t take on huge battles by myself, I do it with God.
WHICH FAMILY MEMBER DO YOU CALL WHEN YOU HAVE GOOD NEWS TO SHARE?
Well, my husband, of course, but family member? My mom, she loves good news, even good news about total strangers, she is a pure soul.
WHO INSPIRES YOU TO LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE?
My husband, he is my biggest fan, biggest support system and biggest critic. I know that any advice from him is mainly to build me up into a better person.
WHEN YOU HAVE TO CONFRONT SOMEONE, DO YOU CHOOSE TO STAND STRONG, OR TO NOT SAY ANYTHING AT ALL?
Stand strong! Enough said! I believe that confronting someone should be done in an honest and classy, straight-forward, mature way. Avoiding the confrontation does not help any party to reach an agreement.
IS THERE SOMEONE THAT MADE YOU BELIEVE IN LOVE?
My mom and dad! My mother was diagnosed with an incurable disease that left her bedridden for 12 years. My dad never left her side and did all he could to help her survive. He even gave us the best childhood despite the hardships of seeing my mother (almost) die 22 times. My mother was used as a guinea pig to test medication and they found the cure. That same cure even saved Pamela Anderson. She was cured just before she received organs for an organ transplant. Healed by the miracle of prayer. Today they are still happily married and have been for 38 years, and an amazing example of unconditional love!
DO YOU BELIEVE IN FATE AND THAT EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON?
Absolutely! We never realize it as it happens. It all feels like scrambled puzzle pieces, but when you look back on your life as you built it, the picture becomes clearer.
WHEN YOU GOT YOUR HEART BROKEN FOR THE FIRST TIME, WHAT GOT YOU THROUGH IT?
My family, chicken strips, chocolates and prayer. I could always turn to them, and they understand my heart. They know how to make me stand tall. I went through phase one (insane crying) and when I got myself together, I started focusing on my future and spending time on things that will have a lasting effect on my life, compared to temporary relationships.
WHAT MAKES YOU MOST PROUD OF YOURSELF?
When a client says: “You changed my life”. That is worth more than anything to me! This makes me feel that my hardships and countless hours of time, was not in vain and I made an impact on someone’s life.
WHEN IN A CRISIS, DO YOU ACT CALMLY OR DO YOU AUTOMATICALLY FREAK OUT?
I naturally go into a calm state, handling everything that needs to be done and as soon as the rush passes, I go a little ballistic for 5 seconds and then it’s over 😀
WHAT KEEPS YOU UP AT NIGHT?
Work – My biggest inspirational ideas pop up around 2 o’clock in the morning. So I always keep a book and pen everywhere around the house.
Also, stressful situations and excitement. I’m not an avid sleeper, so I stay up easily. Except for books, I can last one page and wake up with my head in the book and highlighter marks, stamped on my forehead like a scrapbook tutorial.
IF THERE WAS ONE CHARITY YOU COULD DONATE TO, WHICH WOULD YOU CHOOSE?
I have a big heart for kids and animals! I love supporting Child Welfare. Unfortunately, my husband and I cannot have kids. We are screened and registered as adoptive parents, but still waiting for the phone call to change our lives. We have been waiting for more than two years now, so hopefully one day soon. We are connected to an agency in Cape Town and love supporting any child-related charities. Not all my charity work is connected to agencies/non-profit organisations, most of my charity work is done in terms of free coaching sessions, free court cases and emotional and financial support to people who crossed my path.
WHAT ADVICE WOULD YOU GIVE TO YOUNG WOMEN WHO WANT TO SUCCEED IN THE WORKPLACE?
Prioritize work and personal life. Never start your day until it’s finished on paper. Fill your calendar with your own to-do list before you start filling it with requests from other people.
AFTER ALL THIS SUCCESS, WHAT DO YOU STRUGGLE WITH NOW?
I own 5 companies and managing my time to give 100% to all of them is quite a challenge. Because of this, I put key employees in charge of three of the companies. The top achievers received the companies to run on their own, with minimum input form my side. They receive a profit share and manage them like their own. Giving them the opportunities to grow and dream and take charge without carrying the risk, and me the opportunity to have a steady income, with minimal workload.
DO YOU THINK WOMEN FEEL INTIMIDATED IN BUSINESS?
I don’t think so. In the past, a male-dominated world was intimidating grounds for a woman to take charge of, but in the world today, woman are at the forefront of success and dominating the business industry like never before. I truly believe that this is not a temporary trend, but rather a sustainable female positioning that will continue to grow.
HOW DO YOU ACHIEVE WORK-LIFE BALANCE?
I end my day at 17:30 as far as possible. I switch off my laptop and spend time with my husband, that’s it. We also take one weekday a month and one weekend a month off, to spend time together outside of our busy routines.
HOW DID YOU GET WHERE YOU ARE TODAY AND WHO/WHAT HELPED YOU ALONG THE WAY?
Life experiences and prayer got me where I am today. We don’t learn a lot of lessons from happy days and successful relationships and successful business ventures. We learn from failures and heartaches. Prayer and knowing when to give up and when to bite the bullet and continue, has helped me tremendously.
WHAT HAVE YOU LEARNED ABOUT LEADERSHIP, ENTREPRENEURSHIP AND MENTORING OTHERS?
Leadership started from a young age in school and I grew the skills as I got older. I completed a diploma in Entrepreneurship from Potchefstroom University when I was still in high school, and that woke up the entrepreneurial spirit in me. I love mentoring upcoming Life-coaches and young entrepreneurs, especially because I wished I had a mentor my age, growing up. Giving back to other’s in the form of leadership and mentoring has made me a stronger person and because of that, I found my purpose in helping others.
WHAT HAS BEEN THE ROLE OF LUCK IN YOUR SUCCESS?
I believe that I’ve worked too hard to just call it luck. Consistent hard work and perseverance, endless hours on my knees and faith in the journey God planned for me, lead to success.