We have all seen the movie “What to Expect When You’re Expecting” with the high hopes that we will be rocking that Cameron Diaz body throughout our pregnancy. While daydreaming about your pregnancy bod and outfits you’ll wear while sitting in the drive-through for your second McFlurry of the day, you quickly realize that this journey might not be as you expected.
Relax, although your pregnancy might not resemble a blockbuster the journey after your baby is born is one filled with such excitement and adventure it rivals any Hollywood scene.
Everyone says that you can never explain the feeling when your baby is born, to hear that first cry and to hold them for the first time. We get tips and advice from friends, family members, people you have never met, what to do and what not to do, prenatal classes, baby workshops, books, magazines and yet here I am telling you that you are surely in for one wild amazing ride that no person or story can ever prepare you for.
Coming home with your newborn for the first time is probably one of the most intimidating things you’ll ever do. After hearing how your life will never be the same again for the 100th time I remember me and my hubby smiling at each other, determined to prove everyone wrong.
Still, you go through emotions and learn to get to know one another on a whole new level. So I have put together a list and after going through it a million times eliminating items written down, these are the few things I would have loved to hear as I was embracing becoming a mother.
1. It is okay to feel overwhelmed
Everyone from all corners of the world wants to come and visit you and your new addition. Leggings on and hair in a bun the house has to be open to everyone sharing your joy. As happy as you might feel to see them… it does become overwhelming at times and that is okay! Embrace your new look, I promise you nobody is looking at you!
2. You’ve got this
If you are feeling unsure of everything and worrying if your baby is breathing. standing over them as they are far away in dreamland is not as weird as it sounds. Motherhood really does come naturally, it magically happens somewhere between baby leaving our bodies and us holding them for the first time.
3. Your body will one day be okay again
Its great hearing everyone tell you that you look fantastic after just having a baby, but boy when you look in the mirror it seems that the excess skin will never disappear. Then you hear, don’t worry about your body, it’s amazing that you grew a life inside you, which is great, but in all honesty stomach.. the baby left, you can leave too.
4. Listen to your gut
The instinct that comes with motherhood is something out of a movie. You find yourself surprised at how you just know what your baby needs. Trust yourself.
5. You’ll sleep again
After being up for a couple of nights in a row it’s easy to get discouraged. You always get people telling you to sleep when the baby sleeps… sure, you can also fold laundry when the baby folds laundry. You’ll quickly get a routine that works for you and your new baby. Then they grow up and we miss the sleepless nights and days we had to cuddle them up in our arms.
Having said all of this, this life-changing journey, at times not for the faint-hearted, is the most wonderful experience you will ever go through. Most importantly, remember, give yourself a break, you’re doing the best you can. The way those little eyes light up at the sight of their mommy is something no one can prepare you for.